The year 2022 was smooth—life was good.
My wife and I enjoy a solid relationship. We talk a lot, share our thoughts, love each other, and make each other laugh. We dance, run, walk side by side, and support one another. I love my wife more than anything—not just for what she’s done for me, but because every day, she pushes me to be a better man and makes me happy, even when her truth bombs sting a bit. But that’s life—I believe we’re all evolving until our last breath.
Are we the perfect match?
Is she the perfect woman? Am I the perfect man? I don’t believe in perfection. I don’t think there’s a perfect match, partner, or person. However, I do believe there’s someone out there willing to adapt without losing their essential inner core or personality. For a good relationship, both partners must adapt, evolve, and change a few things to make each other’s life happier and truly work together.
Finding the balance
There’s a thin line, right? I learned in past relationships that when you change yourself too much to make someone else happy, you risk losing who you really are. I was so focused on the goal that I forgot to take care of myself. Maybe that’s why some relationships don’t work while others do. Although many close friends say our relationship is perfect, it isn’t—it’s just good, and we work every single second to make it better and happier. If I can offer any advice (and I’m no expert), it’s simple: talk. Share what you feel, what you like, and what you don’t. Only by communicating openly can you find your own “relationship path.”
Taking the next step
In 2022, our lives were in a good place. We both had stable work, a good income, and even shared our home with two cats and a dog. So, we decided to take the next step: growing our family. We’ve always dreamed of having one or two biological kids and, if possible, adopting more—depending on our income and our ability to give them the best life possible.
Facing the unknown
Having a kid is always stressful, right? You start thinking about your relationship, about the “children” you already have (our pets are like our kids), and all those tiny fears that pop into your head. But little did we know what lay ahead. We were not expecting this bumpy road—the difficult times that would test our relationship and each of us as individuals. Since we couldn’t find much information online (or maybe we just didn’t know where or what to look for), I started this blog to share what we faced and the solutions we discovered. Your mental health will be tested—hard! And sometimes, not knowing what to do next made the pain even greater.
The journey continues
I don’t want to discourage anyone. Nearly three years have passed since we took this step, and we were still trying to have a kid. At the time of this writing, my wife is pregnant with a boy, and everything seems to be falling into place. After previous traumas—which I plan to share with you—we remain cautious, taking each step one at a time.
Looking back on 2022
That year felt normal. We were trying to have a baby, and after a few months, we spoke with doctors to see what we could do—hormones, better timing, nothing out of the ordinary. But a year passed without even a small sign, like a late period. So we went back to the doctors, and they decided to run the standard exams to check if my sperm was healthy and if my wife could get pregnant. And so, in 2023, our bumpy road was about to begin.
In This Together
So, before diving into the following posts, if you’re experiencing something similar to what we are, remember the strength of your partnership—what makes you stronger, what brings you joy and laughter, and the ways you comfort and support each other.
It’s a challenging journey where your mental health and relationship will be tested. But never lose sight of your goal, and most importantly, don’t forget your partner. As the “outside partner,” there will be times when you’re in pain, yet you must put her needs first—even if that means setting your own pain aside (just for a while). Sometimes, all you can do is simply be there for her.